Anger. It’s everywhere. I’m watching the fury toward oppression coming to a full boil, spilling out into the streets.
And I say hallelujah!
To be clear, I’m not referring to the looters or arsonists, whose anger has nothing to do with seeking justice but serves only to attack and plunder.
I’m proudly pointing to the protesters, peaceably but unabashedly voicing their anger, demanding personal dignity and systemic change.
This is a particularly important message for us women. Historically we’ve been groomed to repress our rage. We don’t like anger. It doesn’t feel good. It’s not ‘nice’. It’s scary.
But in truth, anger is a natural human emotion. Healthy when expressed in a timely manner…a catalyst for positive change. Toxic when bottled up…a source of chaos and destruction.
I believe buried anger (and unhealed trauma) is our biggest barrier to financial (and personal) freedom. Perhaps these widespread riots are calling each of us to find healthy ways to discharge our pent-up ire so we can calmly claim our power.
If you suspect you may have suppressed anger, I invite you to write an Angry Letter (which no one else will see). Begin the letter with “Dear (parent, ex, yourself), I am so pissed at you…,” using whatever words feel right. Pour yourself into it, liberating your fury, your frustrations. Write until you’re done.
Next, fold up the letter and put it away for no more than three days. Then take it out and reread it. Is there anything you want to add? If so, keep writing. Continue the process until you feel complete.
When you’re finally finished, burn the letter, ritualistically. As it burns, say to your anger: Thank you. You served me once. I no longer need you. I release you. You are free. I am free.
Notice the lightness you feel once your anger’s lifted. Notice how much more room there is for love.
How do you deal with anger—bottle it up or let it out? Leave me a comment below.
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