Taking Your Power Back

Check if any of these apply to you:

  • You’re angry, but don’t say anything.
  • You’d like to say ‘no,’ but you can’t.
  • You want something, but don’t ask for it.
  • You get an idea but don’t act on it.

If you’ve checked even one, it’s a sign you’re giving your power away. And you’re not alone.

The question is: Why are so many women reluctant to say what we think, feel, or need?

Mostly, to avoid conflict. We’re afraid if we take a stand, we’ll be rejected, disliked, or disapproved of. Instead, we water ourselves down so as not to make waves.

Over time, such acts of self-betrayal destroy our self-esteem, our level of success and quality of life.

Good news! If you can give your power away, you can also take it back.

How? Here are 3 Steps.

  1. Ask yourself the Power QuestionWhat do I want? Not— What does my husband, or kids or boss or society want. What do I want? This isn’t a question we, as women, have often asked, so it may take time to answer.
  2. Look for opportunities to say ‘no’ to what you don’t want, to ask for what you do want, and to express what you feel and think. If this is new, it will be very uncomfortable…go immediately to the third step.
  3. Get support. Seek out people to be cheerleaders, sounding boards and role models. We women need support when things are scary. And risking backlash can be truly frightening. But when you think about it…self-betrayal is even scarier…and sadder?

 I’d love to hear where you’ve given your power away…and how you took it back! Tell me about it in the comments below.

Comments & Feedback

  • Lisa

    About 100 years ago, I gave my power away to a friend (long story). Weirdly, what’s helped me get my power back and keep my power is having a monthly schedule. Usually, I’ve got either a dentist, doctor or hairdresser appointment. An enjoyable event, like a concert, museum trip, or whatever jotted down. I write down in red when my credit card payment is due, how much it is, and make sure I pay it all off in full. Usually, I have some type of important interview or appearance. I have two dates every month I religiously meet up with two different friends. One on Zoom and one in person. When we see each other we try and work out another date for the next month. Then I have something logistical noted down like picking up dry cleaning or some type of repair. I’m comitted to 15 workouts a month – I like jotting them down on my calendar to keep track of them. Sometimes I have an exam or test I’m studying for. I jot the exam date down. People’s birthdays. Menstration stuff.

    Having a calendar keeps me aligned with my core self and helps me to feel excited about waking up in the morning. I like to feel like I’ve got something going on and I’m not blowing around in the wind depending on what someone else wants to do. I generally like to make plans in advance, so I can take care of myself before being 100% present for others.

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When a devastating financial crisis rocked her world, Barbara Huson knew she had to get smart about money… and she did. Now, she wants to empower every women to take charge of their money and take charge of their lives! She’s doing just that with her best-selling books, life changing retreats and private financial coaching.

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